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Saying Goodbye to Our Nanny and Other Updates
I’ve put off writing this post for a few weeks, because I was in denial, but I think it’s finally official.
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Let's Finally Talk about the Eyes - Part 1
I tried putting this all into one post, but Substack said it was too long to publish.
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Let's Finally Talk About the Eyes - Part 2
This post contains after photos from my surgery.
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My Award Winning Bat Mitzvah Montage
In the months and weeks and days leading up to Mazzy’s Bat Mitzvah, as many of you know, I was working tirelessly and almost exclusively on THE BAT…
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How Can I Help My Daughter Navigate her "Mean Girl" Friend Group?
The Big Kid Support Group (BKSG) is a discussion thread for paid subscribers and my attempt to create a safe space for moms of big kids, tweens and…
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A Safe Space and a Temperature Check
Hello Shorties,
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Wiles Family Update: The Apartment, the House and All Things Inbetween
It’s been awhile since we had a general Wiles Family update.
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I Think You Left Something Out
Okay, this is a story for paying subscribers only, for two reasons.
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How Do I Get My 10yo Son to Stop Searching Explicit Content Online?
Welcome to the Big Kid Support Group (BKSG)!
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Uninformed Takes and Major Life Updates
I haven’t written a post since the election because a) it was fucking depressing and b) I didn’t want to come on here and spout uninformed takes without…
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Why Do My Kids Feel So Much Pressure to Get Perfect Grades at School?
I’d love to see a discussion about kids and perfectionism, especially around grades. My girls go to a very good public school system in the ‘burbs and…
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BKSG: How Much Should I Be Policing My Tween Daughter's Clothing Choices?
The Big Kid Support Group (BKSG) is a discussion thread for paid subscribers and my attempt to create a safe space for moms of big kids, tweens and…
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