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Lorna's avatar

I’m an oldest daughter who would absolutely have said I was fine and absolutely not have been fine. I’m so glad you realised in time!

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Kathleen H's avatar

Speaking as a fellow oldest daughter, I agree 100%! “Oh yeah, it’s good (as I silently hold onto that resentment/grudge for YEARS!)”

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Sarah's avatar

Came to say the same. I still regret a couple things I said were “fine” but really were not in hindsight.

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Meredith C.'s avatar

Same!!

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rae's avatar

same and agreed

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Susan Spencer's avatar

I think it’s a great solution. Yes, many times I had to make difficult decisions like that. Boy then girl 1.5 years apart. Sometimes every week. Accomplished dancer vs accomplished athlete. Both had a busy schedule and we had to balance that. Both are now in their 30s and psychologically intact. LOL. Both are fairly newly married and now having babies 4 months apart. Both first children. This Nonna will be stretched to the limit. BC I’m also a retired RN director of women’s services who knows a lot about having babies. They both covet my expertise on site for these events. It never ends. Godspeed.

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cnsnell's avatar

Ohhhh amen to this! I've had a similar experience. 3 children all very involved in activities in both high school and college. Juggling was hard but thankfully my children always supported each other so we often attended as a family or I would go one direction and my husband the other. Now I have 4 grandchildren all between 4 and 11 months. It never ends.

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Karen (aka Baby Sideburns)'s avatar

I love how you try to figure out how Mazzy will react emotionally to different scenarios. Trying to predict these teenage girls is impossible! I'm always trying to do that too with Zoey.

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Sandy Davis's avatar

Awww Frankie will Definitely smooth things over. Mazzy just wanted to feel special and seen. Teen years are a strange mix of growth, independence, and realizing the changing of relationships. The mourning of younger years and the need for the 'rents is a real thing. Even for strong young ladies. You're doing amazing 👏🏼 ❤️

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Amie's avatar

I feel all of this so much! My twin daughters moved into their dorms freshman year on the same day. At different colleges. Ultimately my mom went with one, I went with the other. It’s been more than 10 years, and I still feel a little bad about picking one! I think the decision you made with Frankie is the perfect solution!! Great thinking ❤️

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Elizabeth Hubler's avatar

I have twins (nearly 12 and I’m dreading this weekend!!!)

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Ash's avatar

As a mom to three, this comes up all.the.time! We divide and conquer. I’m not sure jumping through hoops and making special accommodations is good for the long haul as this scenario will come up again. Harlow sounds like a much more needier child, probably best mom to see her and dad to Mazzy and then switch next year.

Either way, you definitely get MOTY for bringing the dog.

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Alexandria Chang's avatar

Tough decision!! But you definitely made the right choice given all the variables. Not only will Mazzy love seeing Frankie but her bunkmates will too! My daughter wishes I could bring out dog to Visitors Day!

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Isabelle's avatar

I have a feeling that if Frankie shows up alone to see Mazzy, it would have been totally fine! 😆

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Madeline D's avatar

As a camp lover and former camper, I wholeheartedly approve of your decision to send them. I think the solution is a good one. Anyone can see how much Mazzy loves Frankie! Is there a doggie friendly restaurant near camp? Is her camp okay with you coming only in lieu of Grandma and Sammy or can Mazzy have double dipping visitors? That could be good because you could Facetime Harlow and Mazzy together.

I can't wait to see the off to camp reels!!

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Katy's avatar

This was so entertaining to read! Can’t wait to hear how the girls are doing at camp.

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Julie Delinsky's avatar

Yes! You have to update us!

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Marika Páez Wiesen's avatar

All I know is, whatever I choose, I always choose WRONG!😝

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Sara H's avatar

I’m so happy to read you have a solution!

I was afraid that my daughters would

Have their first day of School on the same day - turns out my daughter in first grade will

Be starting a day earlier than my daughter going into pre-k!! Yeah, so no choosing whose school to go to!

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rae's avatar

This made me so emotional and my kids don’t even go to camp? You guys are doing the right thing mazzy will be THRILLED 💖

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Julie Delinsky's avatar

Nice work Mama, and as we know, ‘“It’s fine” most definitely means it is so not fine!

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Julie T's avatar

perfect solution. We had to make a visiting day decision this year as well but it was easier-the 7 week camper gets us for visiting day, the 3 1/2 week camper (who cares MUCH more about seeing us than the 7 weeker) gets an amazing package. (But also why does a 3 1/2 week camper even need a visiting day)?

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Emily Archambeault-Wahlberg's avatar

I have 2-yo twins and I already have anxiety imagining them going to different colleges and having their college graduations on the same day. How in the world will we pick???

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