Well I feel like AI gave a very general answer- good points but nothing I haven’t read before. Your answer made me nod along in agreement and feel more “seen”. Plus I’m a person who learns more from real examples versus general advice. So you beat AI for me 👏🏼👏🏼
First, I've seen way too many movies where this whole AI thing never ends well. Second, although it was a good response, it's internet-speak, very general. A google search would bring up lots of articles along those lines. Yours, on the other hand, provided real life situations that I can easily apply. When I was reading the AI response, I was just sorta going thru the bullet points like I do with any how-to article. Your tips were specific, yet applicable to any other situation. Your response made me actually think and offered a different way to approach a very hard task.
I work in radio and we've started loosely using AI for our scripts. We always have to massage it to make it fit the client a bit better, but it gives us a good jumping off point when we're just stumped. I think the same can be said for your experiment. It gave good points, but it took the human perspective (you) to make it more interesting.
As a complete aside, throwing in about Harlow. I feel like she is who I was at her age (except for the getting up early for school every morning, lol). There are a lot of things that I relate to about her, including the hoarding/sentimental bedroom thing. My parents were divorced, so I would spend 3 weeks with my dad each summer. Once I came home and my mom had completely reorganized my room, trying to be helpful and give me a clean slate like you were saying. When I say that I had a panic meltdown of epic proportions, I'm understating the situation. It was NOT. GOOD. It was so bad that as I was reading your idea, I started panicking for Harlow, lol. You know her best, so (hopefully) it may be completely fine and she may be thankful. However, maybe prepare yourself the ultimate worst just in case, lol. To this day, as an adult, if my mom gets into my space and even suggests helping me by tidying up, I get nervous, lol.
Your answer had some good points about thinking about the specific circumstances of the environment and the nature of the child. You know your own daughter better, but I personally would not have coped well if my mother had gotten rid of a whole lot of stuff while I was away.
I can be a bit of a sentimental hoarder at times too. What I find helps me is taking photos/videos of things before I get rid of them. Then I've still got something to remember the item by and it can help trigger other memories. I find my memory isn't always as good as I'd like and having photos/physical items is important. I know you probably don't have much other storage space, but I wonder if you could pack up some of the special items, so that she knows they're still somewhere. Then they can be brought out at some later date and at that time either she no longer has as strong an emotional connection to them or it's a fun, meaningful experience going through them again. That would mean they're not causing clutter in her room on a daily basis.
I really like having things tidy, but I don't always manage because I'm like tired and busy. If you don't have a good organisation system in place and a good place to put something it makes it much harder and the job to get everything organised gets bigger. I try and carefully consider whether I want to bring something into my apartment in the first place. Once you own something it's harder to get rid of it. My mother always wants to give me things as presents and if I don't give her a ideas she "threatens" that she'll come up with her own ideas. I've told her that I already have too much stuff that I need to organise and I'm not really in a place to add more.
For the person asking the original question, I wonder if some of it is about picking your battles. Like saying that communal areas have to be kept tidy, but there's less focus on keeping the bedroom tidy. I find it hard to relate to someone who likes things messy. If I have the time and energy and maybe some help, I'm more than happy to tidy up and feel better when things are tidier.
AI gave a textbook generic answer. It doesn’t take into account the practicality of how resistant , temperamental or indifferent a child can be to cleaning up their room.
Well I feel like AI gave a very general answer- good points but nothing I haven’t read before. Your answer made me nod along in agreement and feel more “seen”. Plus I’m a person who learns more from real examples versus general advice. So you beat AI for me 👏🏼👏🏼
First, I've seen way too many movies where this whole AI thing never ends well. Second, although it was a good response, it's internet-speak, very general. A google search would bring up lots of articles along those lines. Yours, on the other hand, provided real life situations that I can easily apply. When I was reading the AI response, I was just sorta going thru the bullet points like I do with any how-to article. Your tips were specific, yet applicable to any other situation. Your response made me actually think and offered a different way to approach a very hard task.
I work in radio and we've started loosely using AI for our scripts. We always have to massage it to make it fit the client a bit better, but it gives us a good jumping off point when we're just stumped. I think the same can be said for your experiment. It gave good points, but it took the human perspective (you) to make it more interesting.
As a complete aside, throwing in about Harlow. I feel like she is who I was at her age (except for the getting up early for school every morning, lol). There are a lot of things that I relate to about her, including the hoarding/sentimental bedroom thing. My parents were divorced, so I would spend 3 weeks with my dad each summer. Once I came home and my mom had completely reorganized my room, trying to be helpful and give me a clean slate like you were saying. When I say that I had a panic meltdown of epic proportions, I'm understating the situation. It was NOT. GOOD. It was so bad that as I was reading your idea, I started panicking for Harlow, lol. You know her best, so (hopefully) it may be completely fine and she may be thankful. However, maybe prepare yourself the ultimate worst just in case, lol. To this day, as an adult, if my mom gets into my space and even suggests helping me by tidying up, I get nervous, lol.
Your answer had some good points about thinking about the specific circumstances of the environment and the nature of the child. You know your own daughter better, but I personally would not have coped well if my mother had gotten rid of a whole lot of stuff while I was away.
I can be a bit of a sentimental hoarder at times too. What I find helps me is taking photos/videos of things before I get rid of them. Then I've still got something to remember the item by and it can help trigger other memories. I find my memory isn't always as good as I'd like and having photos/physical items is important. I know you probably don't have much other storage space, but I wonder if you could pack up some of the special items, so that she knows they're still somewhere. Then they can be brought out at some later date and at that time either she no longer has as strong an emotional connection to them or it's a fun, meaningful experience going through them again. That would mean they're not causing clutter in her room on a daily basis.
I really like having things tidy, but I don't always manage because I'm like tired and busy. If you don't have a good organisation system in place and a good place to put something it makes it much harder and the job to get everything organised gets bigger. I try and carefully consider whether I want to bring something into my apartment in the first place. Once you own something it's harder to get rid of it. My mother always wants to give me things as presents and if I don't give her a ideas she "threatens" that she'll come up with her own ideas. I've told her that I already have too much stuff that I need to organise and I'm not really in a place to add more.
For the person asking the original question, I wonder if some of it is about picking your battles. Like saying that communal areas have to be kept tidy, but there's less focus on keeping the bedroom tidy. I find it hard to relate to someone who likes things messy. If I have the time and energy and maybe some help, I'm more than happy to tidy up and feel better when things are tidier.
AI gave a textbook generic answer. It doesn’t take into account the practicality of how resistant , temperamental or indifferent a child can be to cleaning up their room.