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And I thought I was here mostly for Harlow’s baking video 🤷‍♀️ You nailed this! Seriously, as a Jewish woman, I appreciate you writing about it and raising awareness. Thank you.

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This is really well written and thoughtful. As a Jewish girl raised in a super homogeneous southern town, I saw racism and anti-semitism way too often. For me, it definitely shaped my understanding of feeling like an outsider and how to overcome that. Obviously I could ‘hide’ my Jewish-ness in a way Black people cannot but it also taught me to to advocate for others. I am continually perplexed on how so many Jews can be racist and not see the utter hypocrisy in that. I have never understood why Blacks & Jews aren’t bigger champions for each other. This is not to say our experience is anything like the Black experience (at all) but, if anything, our privilege and our struggles should be the perfect combination of super power to advocate for equality.

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I don't know or follow either of these women so I can't give any insight into what may contribute to their blindspots. From what you have summarized though it reminds me of working as a therapist with trauma victims, and often times their lack of empathy for other trauma victims if their experience "wasn't as bad" as their own trauma. They would call out other people for minimizing trauma in general, but had a blind spot or at times felt like they were justified in their minimization of other's experiences as their experience was worse from their perspective. As I have even heard professionals do this as well, "well at least (fill in the blank didn't happen)" creating the narrative for the idea that we should just focus on being grateful that worse things didn't happen. Therefore Leandra didn't recognize her own privilege because she wasn't as privileged as those around her, and Recho doesn't believe that Jewish individuals have had it as bad as African Americans.

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I think we should wait for episode 2 to come out next week to see whether she addresses the deletions. I’ll be honest I thought hearing Leandra say “a lot of people were burned at the stake last year” (when referring to people who faced the consequences of their actions after George Flloyd’s death) was so upsetting. She was equating her cancellation (which she survived) to people be burned at the stake in the same conversation she is (supposed to be?) discussing how Black people are literally NOT surviving in America. Saying that to a Black woman? Who you’ve made record a podcast with you three times? That’s violent. That is white supremacy. To me, she showed her cards right there.

And while I do not agree with the anti-Semitic undertones or disinformation, I felt the “nose job” digs etc were an emotional response to Leandra opening up the wound of all the trauma Black people have experienced by essentially saying “I was traumatized too.”

It’s like a woman saying “I was harassed by a male coworker” and a white man stepping in and saying “So? I’ve been harassed too!” Yes, every human can experience harassment but women fundamentally experience it more.

For Leandra to feel the need to continually point out her own suffering (which yes, is valid and real and her experience) she makes it clear she is not even operating in the same realm of consciousness when it comes to understanding racism in America.

I wonder if Recho was attempting to point out that white women benefit from their ability to conform to society’s standards of beauty and be accepted by said society, while Black women cannot. Do you know what I mean? And the stereotypical examples she used were to prove a point that some women can change/erase the things they would have been oppressed for. Not saying she should have used them!!

I’m very careful not to tone police when it comes to Black Women’s experiences. I really do have a feeling all this will be addressed.

Behind any inflammatory language, the way I understood the comment was that regardless of ancestry, one’s proximity to whiteness is what keeps them safe. Leandra, in her day to day life, is physically/emotionally/mentally safer than a Black woman. Yet here Leandra is, trying to get a Black woman to save her.

Would you rather wake up tomorrow and be Leandra in America or Black in America? That’s what I felt she was saying when she said, “you will be fine.”

Again - not agreeing with anything anti-Semitic! But also, I have to say this, maybe a thread of white women critiquing a Black woman isn’t constructive?

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That's a fair comment at the end. I guess I feel like even though I do not equate my experience as a Jewish woman in America to being Black in America, I still feel a responsibility to call out anti-semitism when I hear it. Especially when it's spreading misleading information like the Jewish role in slavery. The JAP comment was over the line but I do agree with her point— it's easier for white Jewish women to assimilate. And I agree that the Jewish struggle is more about the persecution in our history and our fear of it repeating itself rather than the oppression Black people are currently experiencing, which is different and should not be compared. Being Jewish does not affect my ability to achieve success, good healthcare, education, etc. But I also don't want to dismiss the uptick of random hate crimes against Jews, because many of us feel that it goes hand in hand with a rise in anti-semitic rhetoric. History has taught us that whatever wealth we have and as much as we think we fit in, if they come for the Jews, we are included.

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Rise in anti Semitic rhetoric is underselling it a bit for this year. Although the rhetoric itself is traumatizing (hello TikTok). I also think that acknowledging that you are secular, wealthy and assimilated but many of us Jews are not. We wear our Judaism and it’s scary how it’s become a target on our backs. As a SW the amount of antisemitism related anxiety I see people experiencing is terrible, and sad because “reality checking” doesn’t always work.

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Rise in Anti Semitic rhetoric and behavior is scary *and* should not be used as a get out of jail free card for Leandra's own rhetoric and behavior. It's concerning to see the amount of women on this thread using Recho's words as permission to ignore Leandra's words.

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Ilana, you always write so eloquently about these subjects. I always feel like I'm learning and growing when you post. I have to say I was really sickened when I read your story today. Those words from Recho Omondi were so blatantly and hurtfully anti-semitic, I gasped out loud. It made me think of what mindset someone would have to say those things. We Jews would not be chemically straightening our hair or getting nose jobs or changing our names to less obviously Jewish names if not in response to anti-semitism and oppression! And the use of the term "you guys" just sits so uneasily with me.

I haven't listened to the podcast yet but from everything I've read, I'm sure Leandra is incredibly privileged, tone-deaf, and biased. That deserves to be called out. But the response to that is never to hit back with tone-deaf and biased stereotypes of Jewish people. It just seems that people are so incredibly uneducated about the history of Jews (seen from Recho's first comments) and their oppression. I really hope Recho does not stop at simply removing the offensive content and closing comments for a while. I hope she learns and grows from this moment.

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I hope Recho addresses it too. I think without the anti-semitic comments, the podcast was a really good dissection of a certain kind of woman in the workplace. I listened to it more than once and found Leandra sounded even worse the second time around. And I'll admit that it helped me recognize some qualities in myself that I don't like and need improving. Like being more grateful for all I have. I just wish the learning wasn't undermined by the anti-Jewish stuff.

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Unfortunately, this is what happens when you apply the worldview and lens of critical theory to every interaction. Not pretty. Traditional definitions of interpersonal racism and institutional racism are not dependent on one’s intersectional status (as though it were a caste system - new system of morality - the righteous and the unrighteousness.)…they are dependent on a person thinking their race/ethnicity is better than another persons. Institutionally this plays out when you don’t let said persons in or treat them differently. Now, we are actually perpetuating racism, binary/stereotypes with a method that is “supposedly” disrupting it.

I am curious if you have read anything by Bari Weiss who is an ex-journalist from the New York Times. A self-described liberal, Jewish woman who is discussing all of this. She has a sub stack. Worth looking up for sure.

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You said what I was thinking in a far more eloquent way than I would have been able to.

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Yes! Also love Bari Weiss- everyone should read her/listen to her podcast!

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So much this. There is so much casual anti-semitism that it seems commonplace-which it shouldn’t be. And when Jews call out the anti-semitism, we are told we are wrong for calling it out-that it wasn’t anti-semitism. The only people who get to decide if sinuosity anti-Semitic are Jews. And if you edit out your podcast-you have to say why. Editing in this case, shows that you are doing it because you don’t want to be called out.

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I’ve never heard of either of these people before but reading this Leandra makes me think about an episode of Saved by the Bell when Zack said in his neighborhood the poor family is the one without cable. But Recho… That’s the kind of person I have some experience with. I’m black/white mixed. White assimilated, white passing, white things, white sounding. The things I’ve heard from black people wouldn’t fly if white people said it.

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You nailed it. I listened to the podcast last night and as you said the antisemitic parts were cut by that time. I appreciate you mentioning them b/c it’s important and those comments you mention were done in that “casual” anti-semtic way that’s seemingly acceptable in society. To clarify, I’m not defending Leandre bc oof did she just step in it over and over again. I’m talking specifically about the anti semitism. I don’t think ppl care that much when comments or violence happens and I would say it dates back to the age old tropes of Jewish ppl deserving it for some reason, based on lies abt controlling the banks, the media (now even the weather), etc.

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Phew, that is a whole lot to unpack...

I think the hypocrisy of Recho's actions are hugely telling. Calling out (rightfully so) Leanda for her actions/inactions but then sweeping your own under the rug without addressing them. We all make mistakes (tho I have a hard time simplifying it like that), but part of growth is owning them and learning from them.

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Thank you for writing this post Ilana. 2021 suddenly feels like the year American Jews cannot stay quiet about "casual" anti-semitism in the media.

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Thank you for putting into words what I feel but have trouble expressing so succinctly.

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Would love to see Recho Omondi go on Sarah Silverman’s podcast and apologize for/unpack her own antisemitism.

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I listened to this podcast AFTER it was edited without realizing it. I do wish Recho would have noted it somewhere. Instead I even messaged you, Ilana, talking about how Leandra seemed to not just be oblivious about her situation but spent the time to try and reflect and then landed on the idea that she did nothing wrong. So for starters, I'm sorry if in any way my ignorance of hearing an edited version and responding only to one side was frustrating for you. I genuinely think, as someone who hosts a podcast myself, if you edit it after the fact you really should note it as the audience deserves that. The antisemitic remarks were 100% uncalled for.

On the Leandra topic I think as much as I think "oh my she's so privileged and ignorant" I also realized I know people like her. Fellow white people who grow up privileged and don't recognize it. Who grow up to be racist but can ignore it because they primarily live in white suburban pockets. Many people are a product of their environment which always reminds me of the quote 'injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere'. When these self isolating pockets of the privileged exist, how do we ever get people to recognize and improve racism on a wide scale?

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I just don’t like the entire interview. It’s a hot mess from start to finish. For Recho, I hated the anti-semitism and the way she didn’t push back against many of Leandra’s statements. And then Leandra just seems extremely out of touch and self-centered. This pandemic has been hard on everyone, so to talk about how rough her cancellation was when people are dying of covid, black people are being killed by the police, and millions of people were unemployed at the time of her cancellation …. I just cannot with her lol. Anyways I found it so interesting that you said you went back and listened to it again. Did you cringe just as much the second time? And are you planning to listen to the second part on patreon?

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I actually found it even harder to listen to the second time. I'm not sure why. I think the first time I was thinking more about how she didn't take accountability or recognize her privilege. The second time it really hit home how much she made everything about herself and was trying to play the victim. It was just so off putting and uncomfortable.

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I echo your sentiment about the overall messiness of this podcast. The cringe factor from both sides was on another level. Leandra is a smart woman and a gifted writer but she has always written from a viewpoint and has chosen diction that lets her reader know that while they may think the story is funny, they’ll never be in on the joke. On one hand, We can’t deny her experience but if she is not going to express growth after all of this time and the backlash, what was the point of requesting this interview?? It seemed like these two woman where there for completely opposite reasons. Also, Rechos disdain for Medine was so blatant yet she didn’t pushback at all but rather relied on commentary from other people such as her editor. Perhaps she just wanted Leandra to walk deeper and deeper into a hole while she “nervously laughed at her.” It is so grossly important that we acknowledge white privelage as Jews. We do not know the Black experience in this country. Period. But how do we ever get anywhere w Racism when we so casually throw around antisemitic sterotypes?! I would love to see some commentary from Recho acknowledging her words and how she so conveniently erased them as to end the conversation. Ugh. This was just so bad. I don’t know how you listened to it twice. Excellent essay and I really appreciate your viewpoint.

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👍🏼

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First, I didn’t know you had substack- very cool!

Also, I think the concept of whiteness is very interesting here bc Leandra’s parents are immigrants- one is from Turkey and the other is from Iran. So this definitely complicates the understanding of whiteness and whiteness in America. Additionally, the interviewer plays on stereotypes of Ashkenazi women (effed up stereotypes), something that Leandra is not. This is again the interviewer conflating all Jews in an untrue and problematic way.

Additionally, (re Leandra feeling poor growing up) it makes sense that her experience as the child of immigrants made her feel confused and conflicted about her family’s class and status.

Overall, It is unbelievable to me that people would come away from the podcast only with the understanding that Leandra is tone deaf and not that the interviewer is anti-Semitic AF!

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I understand feeling like the least privileged person in a very privileged room, but I wouldn't use it to explain why I wasn't being racist at the workplace. I think this is a discussion she should have had on her own substack or amongst friends to examine if this is a NYC thing, a privileged thing, a daughter of immigrants thing. It comes off as tone deaf because it is to entirely the wrong audience on the wrong topic. As far as the whiteness topic, I think that's interesting to discuss too. I know when I first started seeing that question appear on standardized tests in high school, I checked other and wrote in Jewish. It wasn't until I was an adult that I realized, oh I'm white/caucasian and checked that instead. Growing up Jewish is definitely confusing because it really mixes up religion, ethnicity and race.

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