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Sarah Hurst's avatar

This is a great list. I'm intrigued to find out more on your decision to move apartments (cue popcorn gif eating gif).

I hadn't actually thought to take stock of last year but for us 2021 felt more bleak than truly sucky, 2020 too to be honest, because 2019 was such a truly terrible year that even a pandemic was a bit par for the course, and yes, I do realise that sounds ridiculous. I have been in survival mode for so long that I stopped expecting joy and stopped creating sparkle, when life used to be so very ordinary but glimmering with happiness under every surface.

After two and a half years where it felt like we could not catch a break unless it was breaking point, we took advantage of a small travel easy window in October 2021 to get out the country (London based) and head to Greece and I felt like me and the kids rested and found each other really properly for the first time in 2 years. We used to be a family of five who travelled a lot, we became a family of four who committed to continuing a legacy of making memories adventuring in new places, and not being able to do that for so long felt like we lost another part of who we were as a family, on top of the person I'd made that family with in the first place.

So being able to travel, and feel international sun, and get away, and see the kids enjoying adventure, and experiences, and each other again, and dare I say glimpse sparkle, was a stand out highlight for me. For a few days, we remembered what it felt like..... my 11 year old said "I forgot what it feels like to be this happy" and that's extremely huge. Not saying it solved anything, but it reminded us all, and we need that sometimes.

Plus my just turned 8 year old stopped talking about wishing he was dead - which I know sounds like a bummer - but he's doing so well that he and his counsellor agreed he can just do drop in visits when he feels he needs to, and for a kid who has lost so much of what he thought was stable in this world at such a young age, I'm super thankful that 2021 saw him take such big steps towards a better place.

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Jennifer's avatar

What a fun list! It’s so fun to read your long-form writing.

I got to move roles within my company in 2021, from one where I was doing well (but was stressed out and not seeing long term happiness) to one where I am thriving, having moved towards my strengths and into something that really could be my long term career. I’m still amazed at this opportunity.

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